FWB?

Is it better to be Friends with benefits with a guy then in an actual relationship? Think about it for a second. In FWB you don't have to constantly call the person or worry about what they are worried about. You can call them up if you wanna hang out with no strings attached and just do what you love to do. You don't have to worry about going out with your girlfriends in worry that he will get jealous and ruin your entire night. There is no pressure at all to do much of anything. It's an agreement between 2 people that they are only going to stay friends with benefits. Now, here is where it gets tricky. As a woman whenever we have sex with someone there is some sort of emotional attachment that you get with a man. The thing about FWB is that you have to be careful not to fall for the guy. It is possible to go from FWB to a relationship, but normally it isn't a good idea, hence why after I go past a certain level I can't just stay friends with someone. FWB is a good idea when the two people are in agreement that it will never go past just FWB. If you do have a FWB person then just make sure your careful. Your heart is an important organ and you don't want to let yourself down by overdoing it.

Affecting the current flow...

After having a few dates with a guy and getting to know him as a person and if he is compatible with you, the inevitable question of the ex always seems to pop up. They want to know what happened, why it happened, where it happened and all of the questions that you still may have in your brain as well. When we date someone new, is it ok to tell your new guy about what happened in your last relationship, or do you keep it to yourself? When a new guy comes into your life, you feel as though you are ontop of the world, nothing can bring you down, nothing can jar you, until the question of the ex pops up. You want the guy your with to know what you have been through, but there is a hesitation to tell him. What if he thinks that your still in love with your ex? What if he thinks you went way out of proportion with what happened between you and the ex? And how do you know when to shut up? How many times have people asked us about our ex's and it turns into a 30 minute conversation that we really didn't want to go into. In reality what I am trying to get at is that relationships in the past, can greatly affect a relationship your in now. It can go both ways. So just be careful when giving information about an ex. The way the break-up happened can tell a lot about a person. For example: If you were one of those women to take a hammer to a guys X-box the minute something goes wrong, then that might tell a guy that you have buttons that he may not want to even go to. You have to be careful when you talk about ex's. They can be a bomb that can explode and make your new flame, not so interested in you as you were thinking. Ex Boyfriend Drama = Men running in the opposite direction.

A New Chapter...

As my life seems to be changing before my very eyes, sometimes you have to change your something for your lifestyle choice. I have joined a Gym and work out every day for at least an hour. I am eating healthier and feeling better and the weight is slowly thinning away. I have just been given a job promotion at work with a hefty raise and I start school in less then a week. A lot on my plate and yet I feel something is missing. Is it a man? Is it lack of sleep? Is it a something? No, it's a haircut. Some women when they feel that life is going somewhere different decide to shop, date lots of men or even get a bikini wax. Me, on the other hand, when I feel like needs a change. I cut my hair, and maybe color it. I need a change for my new school year coming up. It feels like finally for the first time in my life, I don't need a man. I don't need someone to nag me about every little thing, or worry about saying the wrong thing. This time is about me and for the first time in a long time, I like it that way. Sure I will go on some dates here and there, but they aren't serious. I am getting serious about myself and my life, and I must say... It feels so good.

Getting on the train, or missing it..

So for all you ladies out there that suffer from hating men because of their gamer addiction problem, sorry to say but you will never overcome this addiction. Men, apparently no matter what the age, when it comes to certain sports and certain video games, can't seem to lay off or pay attention to anything else while engrossed in these activities. This to me seems odd. One night while I was in a relationship, way long ago, I had a boyfriend who was addicted to video games, one particular video game in particular Call of Duty Black Ops. The one video game I despise now and probably always will. This particular game was so popular, there were Red Bull girls who were half naked at the midnight party at Game stop. Seriously, do we really need half naked chicks at video game openings? Yes, unfortunately I went. That's what good girlfriends do for boyfriends with an addiction. Anyhow, to continue, I went to Victoria Secret one afternoon and picked out something really special, I figured I would surprise him. When I got home from the mall, there he was on the television playing, yes you guessed it, Black Ops. I immediately thought to myself I will give him a few hours and then change into the sexy red lingerie I had picked out. 4 hours later, I decided to finally change into it, with him still playing the game. As I opened the door, I figured he might look to the side to see me, but no such luck. So I did the only thing I could think of at the moment. I walked right in front of the T.V. and smiled. He finally seemed to see me and he said the worst thing you could possibly say to a woman in this particular instance. He said "Babe, your in my way." How could he possibly say that when I'm in lingerie giving him sex in a nutshell? I instantly got sort of pissed and walked out to go put my clothes back on. I decided to go to bed early that night and at around 2am or so he finally came to bed with his own agenda. I turned him down flat and turned over to go back to bed. The mere thought of him trying was infuriating. You had your chance when I was standing in front of you in new lingerie, and you didn't take it. I am not giving it to you now, you missed the train, maybe it will stop in your neighborhood again in a day or so. The men I have told this story to find it incredibly hard to understand. Given the opportunity between sex and video games, most of my guy friends picked sex. It amazes me that some men are just born to ignore all the important parts of a relationship and society.. If I wanted sex earlier, what makes you think that when it's convenient for you, I am gonna open my legs. Like I said, if you miss the train... TOO BAD!

Picking up women..

As I was at the Gym tonight working out for my triathlon in December, My friend C. and I started talking about all the hot awesome men that were in the gym at the same exact time as us. The question arose of whether or not the gym would be a suitable place to meet a man. The more women work out, the more men seem to like them. It shows that they care about their body and want to look better. So why not pick up a man at the gym. It can't be the worst idea in the world. We also talked about how at least if you were hit on at a gym at least the guy would be sober. So many times you go to bars and a man will come up to you and hit on you and you can't tell if he is drunk or sober. At least at a gym if a guy comes up to hit on you, you know he's sober. You know that it's not just the alcohol talking. So many times when men get drunk, they want to get laid and they don't care by who because they are drunk. At least at the gym you know that the man can see clearly. Makes you feel a little better when you get hit on at the gym. I go there not only to get fit and in shape, but also so that I can give my eyes the luxury of some eye candy.

Dreaming about Death?

I had a dream last night that freaked me out to no extent, but then I read online about what the dream meant and was much more pleasantly surprised! 

 DREAM MOODS DICTIONARY:

To dream that you die in your dream symbolizes inner changes, transformation, self-discovery and positive development that is happening within you or your life. You are undergoing a transitional phase and are becoming more enlightened or spiritual. Although such a dream may bring about feelings of fear and anxiety, it is no cause for alarm as it is often considered a positive symbol.  Dreams of experiencing your own death usually means that big changes are ahead for you. You are moving on to new beginnings and leaving the past behind. These changes does not necessarily imply a negative turn of events. Metaphorically, dying can be seen as an end or a termination to your old ways and habits. So, dying does not always mean a physical death, but an ending of something.

Girlfriend Material?

As I sit here on a hot heated night drinking a glass of wine, I can't help but think about that last horrible relationship fail that happened to me. When a guy tells you that he doesn't want to date, normally you would just shrug it off and move on. But what if you really like a guy? I have been interested in this guy for over a year and I was being very patient. Do you just give it all up or tell him you will just stay friends? Well I decided to tell the guy I liked that we could stay friends. Big mistake on my part, because not even a week ago, he sent me a message on Facebook asking if he could come see me on Sunday, after his date. As I read the message over and over in my head, I figured when he said date he meant like a friend date with N. his good guy friend. I immediately messaged him back saying sure. About 2 days after Sunday had come and gone, I got another message from him saying that his date had gone longer then expected and obviously he wasn't going to be able to make it. I figured he forgot what day it was. I shrugged it off and just let it go. 2 days later I get another message asking me if we could hang out that Friday night. I replied with well I hope it doesn't get in the way of your date, trying to come up with a sly remark back to him. He replied with, "She is an old friend that I thought I had lost my chance with, but we are trying again."When I heard that I immediately told him that I was not only busy on Friday night but was also disappointed that he knew how much I liked him, yet he still decided to date someone else. He replied with "We'll talk later." That was over 3 days ago. I know that men can change their minds and give no excuse what so ever about why... but why did it have to be him? Am I not girlfriend material? Am I not someone that someone can desire and want? Why when a woman likes a man do they instantly run when they find out? These are answers I may never answer, but for now, I am standing up proud and saying goodbye. Men work in weird ways sometimes. Oh well.. I guess onto the next one!

Certain things to never say...

Are there certain things that you aren't supposed to say when you are in a relationship? How far do the boundaries really go? Can you tell a woman that she looks fat in that dress, or is that frowned upon because you will hurt her feelings. When a man asks you a question about him in bed... Do you tell him what you really think or do you just pretend that it's all good. Being honest in a relationship is important, although on the other hand can bring the relationship to disaster. Think about if every time you wanted to tell someone what you honestly think, how many times have you stopped yourself? Sure we have all thought about it, but there are only a few select people who will actually say it. Those people are either considered conceited and jealous of the other person, or just a flat out bitch or dick. There is no real way to avoid the certain things that we all wish we could say in relationships. I remember this one time, when a guy broke up with me by text message and when I asked the inevitable question "Did I do something wrong?" His answer took me by surprise. He said "To be honest, Yes you did." At that point you have two options, either ask and see what you did wrong, or just forget it and move on. Asking might hurt you even more then not. I decided at that moment to just drop it and that was it. Why agonize over the way you are? You are who you are and what annoys one person, may not annoy all people. You just gotta be prepared to answer the hard questions, even when you don't want to.