Size of a woman's pants...

We all stress over it, we all hate the size that we are. We hate hips, legs, thighs, big noses anything to make ourselves feel like we aren't good enough. All because the television shows every celebrity as a skinny twig. You have to look like Barbie to make it. I will let you in on a little secret women. MEN LOVE CURVES! They don't want skinny rails with nothing to hold onto. If your a size 12 you are the average size in America of a woman. You can be the skinniest thing in the world with a horrible personality and a plus size girl with a amazing personality. Trust me, men like the ones with the cushion. If you wanna lose weight then do it. I want to lose some weight, but certainly not the curve of my body. I like my curve, I have learned to embrace it and its something that took me a long time to get over. Trust me, I curse my hips when I try to find some jeans to wear because they hardly ever fit right, but at the end of the day I still love them. Who would want to have sex with a skeleton? Bottom line: Love your body, and if you wanna lose weight find a partner to do it with and stick to it, but remember your beautiful no matter what size you are. :)


Reen

Poem

All the years of searching
All the tears that shed
The moments been ticking by
Are you still far ahead?

Fighting for survival
Planning out your life
Finding the one for you
Out does any price

You knocked me off my feet
Floating on clouds of endless lust
Daydreaming of the moment
You chip away the dust

Distance creates a bond
A yearning fighting chance
to prove to one another
you will fight for the romance

My heart grows fonder
Of all you say and do
So simply said and done
I wrote a poem for you.

This poem was written for someone very special to me.

How to tell someone how you feel..

How do you tell someone how you truly feel without scaring them? Well I wrote a poem recently for my boyfriend. He seemed to really like it, which is good, but I feel as though it only glazed over how I really feel. How many of us stifle the urge to say something to someone that we know may scare them away? The 3 scariest words in the world to some people are "I Love You" Those three words are so powerful that if you ever notice in a movie, someone is about to die they always say I love you so and so. People get all choked up and worked up about these three words. When most people don't even use those words in the right context. They don't fully understand that once those words come out of your mouth to your boyfriend/girlfriend etc.. That you can't take them back. Your telling them that your in this for the long hall and that you love them. You don't go out and cheat on them after the I love you's have been thrown. People do it though. I love you is a powerful word. Use it carefully and wisely. Its not a tool to get laid. REMEMBER THAT!



~Reen

Distance makes the heart grow fonder... True or False?

In the depths of a relationship that has just begin to blossom, do the words, distance makes the heart grow fonder really have truth to them? You don't spend enough time with the person.. You see them once a month if your lucky, but can you fall in love with someone who lives that far away? Can you know them with certainty and know how they live if you don't see them all the time. Long distance relationships are difficult. Nobody can argue with you on that. The constant lack of them being with you, can burn a hole into you that makes it hard to breathe.. What about those couples and you know who you are, who are with each other 24/7 with no distance. Does that make their relationship any stronger then the long distance relationship. The answer to that question would be no. Just because someone is right next to you all the time, doesn't mean the relationship is any better. Sure you have the proximity of that person, but the connection between the two of you has to have the 3 parts of the triangle. Emotional, Mental and Physical. I have written numerous times about that triangle and I believe very highly in it. So to answer the true or false question, I think it depends on the couple. As you get to know someone you learn their secrets even when your not together all the time. You learn what makes them tick, what makes them happy, what their favorite beer might be. You can have a successful relationship with someone who lives far away. You just really gotta trust one another and trust that you can do it. Cherish the moments you get when they are with you. It seems to me the memories might be a little more memorable when you only get a certain amount of time with them. That's just my opinion though.. You can make up your own mind.


~Reen

Apologies for not writing...

I have been out of the loop of writing for a little bit. I apologize to my loyal readers.

    What constitutes cheating? Is it a mystical moment of weakness? Is it a desperate attempt at attention? What are the rules of cheating if there are rules? If you are in a long distance relationship, does that change the rules? So many factors are included in long distance relationships. You never see one another, you never get the chance for intimacy, and then what happens when the idea of moving comes into play? You move all that way to live with someone you only get to see once a month.You get there and suddenly you realize you know nothing about this person. You have seen them 12 times in the last year. I am not saying that long distance relationships can't work, it's just they bring up a set of questions that maybe wouldn't normally come up. For example, if you go to a party and someone is interested, do you flirt? do you tell them your in a committed relationship? What do you do? I have a very good friend who is torn between two guys. Both guys live quite a ways from her. One 5 hours away and the other at least a day away in travel. She likes both men, she cares for both men, she has spent time with both men and she can't decide who she wants to be with. So she decided to be with both. Does this mean she is cheating? It's long distance and she see's them rarely. She is emotionally committed to both, but she asks me the question, am I a bad person for doing that? Am I a cheater? I honestly didn't know what to say to respond to her. I guess it's considered cheating, but when someone is so far away... what constitutes cheating? I'm not quite sure I even know the answer to that question. I am with someone right now who I care deeply for. He lives quite a ways away, but we try to make it work.. I guess in the end, you decide your own rules of cheating.. in the end it's you who has to live with the consequences.

~Reen